tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-34511226.post116055157176868633..comments2023-07-29T10:07:52.558-04:00Comments on The Hidden Hero: Closure...V. Rileyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17784637105545220269noreply@blogger.comBlogger14125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-34511226.post-1163009715964313522006-11-08T13:15:00.000-05:002006-11-08T13:15:00.000-05:00Brian,I'm so sorry to hear about your kitten. I w...Brian,<BR/>I'm so sorry to hear about your kitten. <BR/>I will say a little prayer for you tonight when I hug my B-man.<BR/><BR/>*hugs*Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-34511226.post-1162574823492373012006-11-03T12:27:00.000-05:002006-11-03T12:27:00.000-05:00im so sorry to hear about your poor kitty..you hav...im so sorry to hear about your poor kitty..you have my deepest sympathy..i would be devistated if anything happend to my dog or 2 cats..your friend is brave to risk getting scratched to save her..i hope his health continues to hold up..****hugs**** hope your day get a little brighter sweetieAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-34511226.post-1161255454007541312006-10-19T06:57:00.000-04:002006-10-19T06:57:00.000-04:00Found your blog through GG, actually. :) Just wan...Found your blog through GG, actually. :) Just wanted to say that this post was very awesome! Many of us have been, or are there, I'm glad you are taking such a positive approach.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15977015237667948339noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-34511226.post-1161237269069993142006-10-19T01:54:00.000-04:002006-10-19T01:54:00.000-04:00Oh, Brian, I can identify with so much of this. I...Oh, Brian, I can identify with so much of this. I mean, obviously, I haven't broken up with anyone for a long time, but I had two bad breakups, and both took me forever to get over. And I don't mean completely, I mean to get sort of functional, in romantic relationships -- it took more than a year each time. And I always got the stomach issues, too, which makes you really miserable, on top of miserable.<BR/><BR/>I often wondered if I would feel better, or satisfied, if I got to tell these guys exactly how I felt, and why. And I finally concluded that I would not feel satisfied by a conversation like that, because these guys had already proven to me that they didn't feel things for me the way they professed to feel. And therefore, they were unlikely to "get" my conversation with them, and then I wuold feel worse. <BR/><BR/>Could have been a justification, I don't know, but I decided it wasn't worth it.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-34511226.post-1161118898291433702006-10-17T17:01:00.000-04:002006-10-17T17:01:00.000-04:00Hey there! Just saying hey to the one and only Bri...Hey there! Just saying hey to the one and only Brian!Joyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14339945263407454921noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-34511226.post-1160836297664173162006-10-14T10:31:00.000-04:002006-10-14T10:31:00.000-04:00i commend you for knowing when you needed help to ...i commend you for knowing when you needed help to get over this, and taking action on that feeling.closure is personal and intangible.i hope you find that kind of peace.i have always believed that bad things happen to teach us to appreciate good things when they happen.if you look at every experience as a learning experience, then you grow as a person..sounds to me like you are growing quite a bit,laying groundwork for true happiness.and good for you for taking the time to heal from that relationship.so many people get involved with someone too soon after a relationship ends, and dont let themselves fully heal, and end up in a string of bad relationships,because they drag the same issues into the next realtionship.you are on the right track,to healing, and having a better, healthy relationship in the future.that is alot to be proud of.this girl didnt break you,though it may feel that way.she made you stronger, and better able to see where you WANT to go in a relationship, and what kind of person you want to be with.dont cry because its over,smile because you survived, and came out better in the end.have a safe trip home.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-34511226.post-1160587476169665092006-10-11T13:24:00.000-04:002006-10-11T13:24:00.000-04:00Yes Brian, I agree. There is nothing greater than ...Yes Brian, I agree. There is nothing greater than an east coast Halloween! This is the GREATEST time of year. I love it.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-34511226.post-1160585196147334102006-10-11T12:46:00.000-04:002006-10-11T12:46:00.000-04:00Well we are glad to be getting some talent back he...Well we are glad to be getting some talent back here on the east coast, for whatever the reason is.<BR/>And BTW...the trees here in PA are absolutely gorgeous right now...sorry you might miss some of the color. When do you plan to move?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-34511226.post-1160584190154229392006-10-11T12:29:00.000-04:002006-10-11T12:29:00.000-04:00Well, I won't deny that the drama of the last year...Well, I won't deny that the drama of the last year contributed to the decision... but it wasn't the deciding factor. Not by a long shot. <BR/><BR/>I don't feel (or want to feel) as if I'm just running away to get away from it. No, looking at what I want to do... I'm just changing tactics to get there... and maybe getting back to my roots, per se. And I do miss Halloween in New England. :)V. Rileyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17784637105545220269noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-34511226.post-1160579024790836622006-10-11T11:03:00.000-04:002006-10-11T11:03:00.000-04:00Brian,I am in your court on this one. By the time...Brian,<BR/>I am in your court on this one. By the time my marraige was basically over I had alot of pain due to stress. My doctor tried to help with medication, but it just made me feel not-myself. So the best medication I found was forgiving & forgetting. I'm not talking about saying that what she did to you was right, just that it's over now and you have grown to understand that you won't be accepting of that behavior any longer. When I let go of that anger that was causing the stress, and I stopped thinking about all of the crap that happened, I felt a whole lot better.<BR/>Yeah, it took me almost 2 years to get straight with my life, but I found myself stronger and more capable of controlling what I will accept behaviorwise from others.<BR/>I think that your choice to make a clean break and move east is a good idea. Distance is a great help because you can get away from those everyday reminders. <BR/>I hope it all works out for you, and just my opinion, but she doesn't deserve to be friends with you if she can't apologize first.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-34511226.post-1160577826107895802006-10-11T10:43:00.000-04:002006-10-11T10:43:00.000-04:00Not at all... I find it entertaining. :)Not at all... I find it entertaining. :)V. Rileyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17784637105545220269noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-34511226.post-1160572584455340252006-10-11T09:16:00.000-04:002006-10-11T09:16:00.000-04:00Me again....OOOPS! Sorry Brian... it's been a roug...Me again....<BR/>OOOPS! Sorry Brian... it's been a rough Wednesday already. If I had seen the "waiting for approval" thingy at the top I would have known why my comment didn't appear.<BR/><BR/>I hope my little tantrum won't keep you from approving future comments. <BR/><BR/>Thanks ;)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-34511226.post-1160572347710222642006-10-11T09:12:00.000-04:002006-10-11T09:12:00.000-04:00Darn it! I posted this long comment and it didn't ...Darn it! I posted this long comment and it didn't go through! UGH! Damn technology! GRRRRRR....<BR/>I will try again...Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-34511226.post-1160572115659797372006-10-11T09:08:00.000-04:002006-10-11T09:08:00.000-04:00Yes Brian we do like you at the GG blog :)I can to...Yes Brian we do like you at the GG blog :)<BR/><BR/>I can totally relate to where you are coming from here. It has been two years since my breakup and it took me just about all two years to heal wounds that were made during the 4 year relationship. Closure is a very tricky thing, especially, when we can't do the things we feel we need to such as screaming at the other person or hurting them (emotionally) as much as they have hurt us. It is SO hard. You are doing the right thing though, you have to talk about it and get it out or else it will grow inside of you take control. For me music was a hugh form of therapy for me. It helped me to hear words that I wanted to hear (although not from that person) and to say things I wanted to say. I hope that you find your closure so that you will be open to receive love and happiness that you deserve.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com